Things Will Happen The Way They Should

14Jun10

35 – At this age I hope to be settled. We all imagine the husband, big house and two kids, greenery in the front lawn, backyard, car, maybe a dog or a cat, the perfect neighbors…I can go on and on. However I’m only 21. I’m close to getting my wonderful ticket to the world with the great institution of Howard stamping me with approval. I’ve had a great deal of pre-career experience and according to my parents and mentors I’m well on my golden path to wherever my career will lead me as a writer and communicator.  To think of a family or a husband right now-well it wouldn’t make sense.

I’m too selfish right now. Not selfish in a way where I wouldn’t want to share some warm chocolate chip cookies with you if I had some (Well maybe I may think twice), because I do believe in sharing happiness. Or if I had information that may help a friend I’d pass it on.  I would never mind stopping to help a complete stranger with directions even if I was in a rush. I’m not selfish in that way.

What I mean by being selfish is that I really need to work on myself. I can barely roll out the bed for my own good to make it work or my internship or class. Imagine adding on a husband or a house to tend. Then adding on a kid. AH! I don’t even think so. I’m not ready for that responsibility. Going on and on I don’t even want a big house with a front lawn. lol! Some people laugh at me when I tell them I want to buy two brownstones that are next door to each other and  make them into one big house. Yes that is my dream. You may laugh or ponder, but I’m such a city girl. And of course it won’t make sense to anyone other than me. Moreover I’m allergic to cats and I guess I would not mind a dog. Also forget a car right now- I don’t even have my license but I’m working on that (Yes I can drive at least).

The whole purpose of me writing this is to really put into perspective who I am as of the present in relation to what I want in the future. I may want the whole world, but what I do now affects me having that eventually.  I like to think ahead – not to stress myself out or worry, but to at least know what I want in my future.

I also keep in mind that no matter how much I plan and how precise I think I have this future thing planned out, things will not always hit the mark. One must be open to the flexible, topsy-turvy roads of the future.

Plan but don’t get mad if it doesn’t always work the way YOU think it should. Life will ALWAYS happen the way it should.

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